Importance of friends in our lives
Published By gaurisood on 2011-08-05 7793 Views
Friendship is one of the most beautiful and fragile relationships in the world . Our friends are our pillars of strength and give us the much needed support and comfort that we all seek in life . Spending time with true friends is one of the greatest joys in the world and many movies,songs,TV serials have been made as a tribute to this lovely relationship .
So why are friends so important in our lives ? Why is the value of a true friend equated sometimes even with a parent or a soulmate ? And what is that invisible bond that holds friends together for years and sometimes even a lifetime ? And most importantly ,what are the lessons in life that friendship teaches us ?
The word "Trust " is very important in any relationship ,and it is true for friendship also . In fact ,the very foundation of friendship between two people is based on mutual trust and understanding .And it begins at an early stage of life itself ,when you tell your friend secrets about your teenage crushes and confide in them about your heartbreaks . The trust grows as the frienship matures ,in fact sometimes we trust our friend more than our parents and siblings .We also trust the judgement of our friend blindly ,having the confidence that they wont lead us wrong.
Another key basis of friendship is mutual sharing between friends .In fact friendship usually gives us the first lesson in "sharing" in our lives ,when we share our toys and favourite possesions with a friend as a toddler.From our lunch boxes in school ,to office gossip ,even clothes before a party ,everything seems better when shared with a friend !!Sharing teaches us to be unselfish and generous and is one of the sweetest aspects of friendship .
Most beautiful moments in life
If we try and recall ,definately some of our most wonderful moments in life will be those spent with our friends .Sleepovers ,our first smoke and drink ,bunking college and going to the movies -such memories always lighten the heart and bring a smile to our faces . The carefree days of playing together as kids in the park ,the fights and then the make up ,all of us have experienced these memories in our childhood . Even now ,calling a few friends over a game of football makes it more exciting ,while for women there is nothing more enjoyable than a shopping spree with their girlfriends on a gal's day out !! These small but unforgettable moments shared with friends make our life beautiful and satisfying .
Friends accept you for what you are
One of the best things about friendship is that in front of friends you can be truly the person you are ,and they will love you for it . True friendship can cross the narrow barriers of religion ,financial status ,colour ,sex ,even country .Remember the first friend that we made in our Playschool or nursery - we did not make that person our friend because he was rich or good looking ,he became a friend because we liked him . Similarly ,true friendship is based on excellent understanding between two or more people .While the rest of the world may judge us ,our friends never pass any judgements .They accept us as what we are ,embracing all our negative points and eccentricities .
Friends always believe in you
There are periods in everyones' life where they may feel down and lose confidence in themselves .It is then that the real value of friends shines through -they have faith in you and your ability at a time when even you have stopped believing in yourself . Friends always share in our dreams and are as happy as us when we achieve them .
Good friends act as valuable guides , cautioning us when we tread the wrong path and rejoicing in our success .Think of all those memorable moments in life - sweet success of the first job , getting admission into our dream college ,birth of our children ..our friends are never far behind to celebrate our success and give us a pat on the back.
Shoulder to cry on when you are down
In the darkest and most difficult periods of our lives ,our friends stand by us holding our hands ,or say those few words which can comfort us .Be it a personal tragedy , heartbreak in love or while facing the ups and downs of an adult life - our friends always make it easier .This is a way to test true friendship .When things are going great everyone is a friend ,it is those who stick to you in the times of adversity who are the true ones !!
Friends as soulmates
Sometimes people find the love of their life in their best friends . Such people are truly blessed ,as many believe the foundations of true love is friendship .Seeing a close friendship of many years blossoming into love ,is indeed very beautiful and heartwarming .
There can be many more reasons why our friends are so dear to us and why their friendship is so precious . Friends fight for us when we are insulted ,defend us in front of the world and pray alongside us in difficult times . But as important as it is to have friends ,equally important is to know how to maintain them . The seeds of friendship need to be sowed deep and the plant needs to be carefully and tenderly nurtured to bear a great fruit .
I would like to conclude by quoting a few lines from the title song of popular American sitcom Friends which sums up the true essence of friendship :
" I'll be there for you, when the rain starts to pour.
I'll be there for you, like I've been there before.
I'll be there for you, cause you're there for me too."